Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes. Be #Anti-Racist

The past couple months have been rough…well the past 6 months have been challenging…well, the past…it seems like there is no end to the challenges.

Challenges are there to grow us and when we don’t pay attention, it will repeat itself in one form or the other until we get the lesson. The world – the earth and our fellow humans are begging for growth and change. The thing is also, that change and growth can feel painful. That’s how it’s always been; but I believe in us. God gave us everything we need to grow and change.

I’ve blogged about a lot of things here over the years, and I’m grateful to all who thought my sharing was worthy of a following. Moving forward, this blog will be my place for personal expression. I am a consummately curious person and so who knows what topics will pass here. It’s all good if you feel you need to leave, but I hope you’ll stay so we can converse, share ideas and learn from each other.

Which brings me to this post.

As citizens of the United States (or any country), politics has to be removed from the category of “four-letter words”. Politics is something that affects us ALL and is part of our daily lives whether we are comfortable talking about it or not. I grew up in Trinidad and in many other places around the world, talking about what’s happening in the political arena is acceptable dinner conversation. But in the US, it’s bad manners. Can we grow up already? I mean, why do we not want to talk about something that affects all aspects of our lives? (Hint: We such at Emotional Literacy and are great and avoiding pain.)

While politics is one painful conversation, it seems #BlackLivesMatter is another.

I don’t know how someone saying “please give me the same chance at living and making a life, as everyone else,” has become a politically painful conversation.

Well, I do know, because so many of us have unresolved pain and we are not emotionally literate enough to deal with it or even seek help for it. Brene Brown’s social research shows that it is easier to off-put our hurt on others (make other’s hurt too) than it is to work through our own pain.

Also, the US has never done any racial reckoning – unlike countries like South Africa and Rwanda. If you look at the reconciliation work done in Rwanda, an integral part of that was people being allowed to tell their story to the masses without retribution and with the knowledge that they were heard. Taking personal defense downplays the person telling their experience. Bishop Tutu lays it out nicely in his book “The Book Of Forgiving”.

If you think reconciling work is not for the US, think again. President L. B. Johnson, when signing the Civil Rights Act in 1964 said, “This Civil Rights Act is a challenge to all of us to go to work in our communities and our states, in our homes and in our hearts, to eliminate the last vestiges of injustice in our beloved country.” Yet here we are AGAIN in 2020. We haven’t done enough work on the “hearts” part.

Which brings me to the #AllLivesMatter folks who are silent on things that affect all lives such as:

“U.S. Customs and Border Protection broke the law by misusing money meant for medical care and food for those in immigration detention –;

and the fact that we can always find money for fighter jets but the United States Postal Service, the only way military service personal can receive mail, has been floundering for 14+ years and not the option to fix it is to slow down service (which already slowed due to COVID-19 –

And then there’s COVID-19. I don’t have the energy to get into this one because Black lives are also on the line and have been through the history of the United States. If I can be killed without repercussion while running away (not lunging at the police with a knife as seen in this video; btw the accomplice was taken into custody alive and well), then I have a bigger problem than COVID-19.

So as Kendi said, we can no longer be “not racist” we have to be proactively “anti-racist”.

To that end, here is my contribution to help move us forward to being anti-racist. I am learning and doing the work on me, I hope you will too:

Anti-racist resource list

Fix Low Iron Without Constipation


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As I opened my browser, a trending article title from Harper’s Bazaar (1) caught my eyes, “6 Signs You’re Low In Iron.” It caught my attention because I use a remedy for this that is not widely discussed, shared or maybe even known. The first conclusion I hope you draw is that I am personally acquainted with this problem.

As I suspected, it did not mention my favorite low-iron fix, however along with listing some ways to fix the low iron problem, the Harper’s article gave the following six signs of low iron that I thought was worth including here.
1. You’re suffering from fatigue and just feeling tired all the time.
2. You seem to get out of breath easily (and yet you consider yourself fit).
3. You’re looking pale and washed out. NOTE: If you have a bit more melanin, like me, this is not a helpful sign. But keep reading to see how my mom made visual checks for iron/blood.
4. You keep getting ill.
5. You’re having heart palpitations.
6. You get unusual cravings for non-food substances (ie, dirt, ice, paint, or clay).

Low iron is linked to waaaaaaay more symptoms than these, but this is enough to start.

For me, the low iron issue would occur around my periodically heavy menstrual cycles. My cycle not always heavy, but when they were bad, they were bad. I would bleed so heavily, that within 36 hours, the insides of my eyes, my tongue and under my nails would have almost no color. To this day, and I’m 40, my mother who was a nurse, would periodically ask to see the inside of my eyelids.

I would also have no energy because iron is the oxygen-binding element in our blood. Less blood equals less oxygen-binding iron.

While I believe supplements are necessary in many cases, my favorite way to fix something nutritionally is with food. Meat, particularly red meat is widely recommended for a low iron issue, but there is one challenge to this. Many people in the US have less than perfect digestion. Note that you do not have to have a diagnosis to have a sluggish digestive system. There are several factors in today’s food options and lifestyle that lead to this (but that’s for another blog post). With a less than robust digestive system, you are not getting the full spectrum of nutrition meat is touted to offer. It offers it, yes, but we may not be able to break down and access all of it.

For this reason, my low iron fix is a winner. It requires much less digestion because it’s liquid and therefore is more easily absorbed. It also has mineral co-ingredients/electrolytes, that help with fluid exchange in the body. And versus a supplement, which could be an artificial form of the nutrient and cause constipation, it’s a food and so is more easily recognized and used by the body.

Drum roll, please! My favorite low iron fix is an organic, unsulfured, black strap molasses. . It’s also great for those who work out or sweat a lot because of it’s spectrum of electrolytes. Some may be concerned because of the sugar, but to that I say, not all sugar is created equal and the high quantity of naturally occurring minerals is a benefit not to be ignored.

Not all molasses are equal. While I’d be open to using any 100% molasses product in a pinch (read the ingredients to make sure it’s not mixed with corn syrup or some other filler), what I keep on hand is an organic, unsulfured, blackstrap molasses.

Blackstrap molasses is the result of the third round of heat extraction done to the sugar cane. This is why it is so thick, has such a dark color (the sugars get extra caramelization), and why it has the highest concentration of minerals.

Why unsulfured? Sulfur dioxide can be used to extract more of the sugar from less-than-ripe sugar cane. It is also used to extend the shelf life of the finished molasses. The World Health Organization has repeatedly given guidelines and warnings about sulfur dioxide. (2) So go with unsulfured.

And if it’s organic, that’s also a plus.

I don’t have a recommended serving as I usually just take a swig from my bottle and chase it with a couple mouthfuls of water. My mom will mix 1 TBS in a cup of hot water, and drink it like a tea. We’ve even added it to chocolate milk for my young nephews (I’m mindful to use less of any sweetened chocolate mix here), after the doctor had concerns about the iron levels of one of them. And yes, his iron levels were fine on his next visit.

Nutritional data for blackstrap molasses.
Calcium 190mg
Magnesium 70mg
Iron 1mg
Potassium 440mg
Phosphorus 9mg

See the source below. (4)

It’s important to note that as with everything else in our body, iron does not exist or work by itself. And typically, elements that naturally occur together in a food, is exactly what those elements need to work in our body. For example, calcium and magnesium, both found in blackstrap molasses. (5)

The second conclusion I hope you draw is that you can fix your low iron issue also and I hope you’ll give an unsulphured blackstrap molasses a try.

Lastly, if you have a sustained problem with low iron, please see your doctor. Be sure to request an extensive panel to test for things such as ferritin, total iron binding capacity and other iron markers.

Do you have a less-than-popular fix for a nutritional deficiency or another ailment? I’d love to know.

4- Based on a combination of an actual product label and data from

New year, new…?

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I’ve never been a fan of the New Year’s resolution. Yet, there is something about the energy of a new year that begs for change. So without making a resolution, what does one do?

You make a goal. Merriam-Webster defines a goal as “the end toward which effort is directed.” Note the word “effort” in that definition. That means it takes work, action. There is also the aspects of intention and integrity or alignment, but that’s for another blog post. This one is to give you some action steps to get to and stick with your goal.

Even Evernote jumped on the goal setting band-wagon this year with the #EverBetterChallenge. If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ll know that I love tools such as Evernote. So after checking out their challenge, I took from it some ideas to work into my schedule. After all, it’s hard to keep step with anything new for long if it so far outside of our norm of operations. Micro-changes is the term I use with my coaching clients. It’s using things you already use or do as the trigger for a small, new action. That way we have a better chance of sticking with the change.

What I incorporated from the #EverBetterChallenge was the daily check box. Well, I already used a daily checkbox in Evernote as my calendar/to-do list, so it was simple to just add these new intended actions to my daily list.

So what am I working on? Being more consistent with my cardio and meditation and tackling a few tasks that I’ve been putting off. I’m walking my proverbial 10,000 miles, one step/action/day at a time. My checkboxes are shown below. The highlighted ones are what I’ve added to my daily lists.

If you’re ready for some change, here are some steps to help you determine which micro changes to take action on.

1. Free write all your goals, big and small.
2. Sort them into what are long term goals (more than six months) and shorter-term goals (less than six months).
3. Choose what goals you are going to work on. I don’t recommend taking on the entire list, especially if you’ve been a resolutions quitter before. #nojudgement
4. Choose and write actionable steps for the shorter goals list. These are the micro-changes you will incorporate. 4a. Get specific. Name the what, where, when and how. 4b. Then have a backup plan. An example from my list is to do 10 minutes on my rebounder every morning before breakfast. Some mornings are not so straight forward, so my back up is to do it as soon as I get back home. The best part is being able to check it off my list for the day.

You may notice I didn’t put “why” in the list above, but it is very much worth taking time to consider. What is your motivation for that goal? It’s okay if it’s something short term like losing 5lbs to fit into a dress for an occasion, but keep digging for something deeper. You’ll then have a bigger reason, something pulling you to go further and stick with it for longer.

Do check out the #EverBetterGroup on Facebook or google the #EverBetterChallenge. And if you prefer to walk this journey solo, I’d like to offer you the perfect non-human companion, the #EnjoyingBeing Goal Journal. It will walk you through determining your goals and help you stay on track daily.

Also, I hope you’ll include a goal for your health. After all, not much else matters when our body doesn’t feel good.

Wishing you much success for 2019!

❤ Roanne

Give Love. Get Love. Donate.

Mantra bands are here!

I’d been thinking about doing #EnjoyingBeing bands for over a year. I’d also been trying to figure out a way to pay for individual trauma resolution sessions for survivors of domestic abuse.

I’d been doing group sessions with a group of domestic abuse survivors for some time now. But it’s hard to foster real change on a personal level, in a group setting. Especially for a group of women who are coming from a life where it was beneficial to protect oneself at all costs. It’s challenging to get them to truly open up in a group.

Yet, these women are just the ones who need real change, who need to heal from their past traumas so that they can move forward as contributing members of society and not end up back in another abusive relationship.

Your donation will help make this possible.

The part I’m most excited about is the mantra on each band. “I am loved. All is well.” I wanted the bands to have a gift from me to the wearer. I chose that mantra because it was so universal, it could fit every stressful situation, serving as a grounding (or uplifting) reminder. It could also be used as a meditation mantra for 15 seconds or five minutes and leave a person feeling centered.

One coping strategy for those who experience panic attacks is to ground oneself by touching something around you. This mantra band would be perfect for that.

Order a band for yourself and everyone in your circle. Any donation is accepted. Bands are gifted started at $2.

There’s even a way to give a $5 donation for free. Hop over to I’ll also be keeping track of how many survivors are helped on that page.

With love and thanks.


What’s Making You Sick

I’ve spent the last two weeks of November, including Thanksgiving, in New Jersey, and by the time I left, I almost didn’t know what day it was. Between my four nephews playing Fortnite (#groan) and the many naps I had to take (self-care for the caregiver), it is time to get back to my regularly scheduled life LOL.

Of course, I spent some time reflecting on my life’s journey, the past year and what I was thankful for. One huge thing was…

…my health. I am really thankful for my health.

I was not always thankful for my health. I supported it as best I knew how with minimal effort of course, and it was sort of always there…until one day it wasn’t. Then I missed it very much. I then spent loads of money and even more time working to get it back.

That part of my life journey, helped me realize that health and wellness was always part of my life. As a teenager, I read Self magazine. Really! I did!. I grew up with “bush medicine”, my grandma had a leaf and tea for everything. The religion I grew up in has a “health message” that was a major part of it proselytizing. Helping my mom with her health issues and then having to overcome mine. My life’s journey has led me to the work I do now as a Wholisitc Lifestyle Coach.

Over Thanksgiving, I did a series of Lives on Facebook because I realized that many of my friends didn’t have an understanding of what I did and it was frustrating for me to see everyone posting about their ailments and me not scream from the social media rooftop, “I CAN HELP YOU!!” You can view the video series here.

Saying I can help you is one thing. I also want to give you a hands-on opportunity to see what could be causing your symptoms. You can do that with my compliments in the next two weeks. I’ve made some time available on my calendar.  Click here to pick a time:

And if you haven’t, be sure to like my Facebook page to future information videos –

Feel free to pass this message on to a friend. Maybe they want to find out about their symptoms too.

With gratitude, from my heart to yours.


How to Chews – a guide on how to choose better food.

There is a mass of information about food: what to eat, what not to eat, when to eat, how much to eat – it can be very overwhelming. The tricky part is that every diet recommendation comes with a reasoning that may not be the best of your body in the long run, and it usually takes several years after a diet become popular for the fallout to start coming to light.

And what happens when you “complete” the diet and reintroduce foods that were not allowed during the diet?

If diets gave long-term results then it would not be a multi-billion (with a “B”)  dollar industry.

But you know what works? Eating real food. The biggest reason is that food is information.

Your body recognizes it.

No matter the food, including sugar and fat, it’s better to give your body the real thing. Food grows how it’s supposed to and kept close to its original form works how it’s supposed to in the body. When food is altered to the point that it does not work how it’s supposed to in the body (eg. Sucralose ie an altered sugar) then it provides the wrong information.

This impacts our body all the way to our genes. Food is information and lends to our internal environment. Our internal (and external) environment determines how our genes express ie mutations and disease vs health.

What we eat is information, not just food. The research of  Bruce Lipton has proven that.

So do we really need hundreds or even tens of diets to choose from?

No. We just need to know “How To Chews” real food. Get a free guide at


The poem below is what poured forth after seeing those on social media call refugees and the people that give them financial support, “pure evil”. I realized that those “Christians” need my prayers more than the refugees because they have “hardened their hearts.” A heart is softened by love and compassion.

Then I thought, weren’t those that were “out to get” Jesus considered the religious elite of their time? I wonder what “reason” they will give God as to why they behaved with hate other humans?

Next, my observation. Those considered secular are embracing oneness and shared humanity and those “commissioned by Christ” are still stuck in a duality that justifies disregard, fear, and hate for other humans. Are we not all neighbors on earth? #whatwouldJesusdo #lovethyneighbor #GodisLove.

Where are you placing your hope – in a God that influences with His love or in our human ability to rebut what we fear?

And so while it feels to me like I’m “rocking the boat”, I speak out for MY shared humanity, because one day, it could be me in need of support from another human and instead of seeing me as someone in need, they may think I’m “pure evil”. I hope not.


Today, I woke up in a bed, in a warm house.
Today, I got to go to work and earn an income.
Today, I had good-for-me food that tasted good.
Today, I had clean water to drink.
Today, I called my loved ones, heard their voices and saw their faces.
Today, I put on clean clothes that kept me warm.
Today, I accessed the internet and mined from the knowledge it holds.
Today, I listened to an audiobook on my mobile device.
Today, when I turned the key in my vehicle, it started.
Today, I didn’t have to walk 2000 miles in search of a better life.
Today, the kids I know didn’t have to sit on a mat on the curb to attend school.
Today, I didn’t lose my home to a flood.
Today, I was not punched and told it was because I was loved.
Today, my body didn’t hurt.
Today, I can vote.
Today, I can practice whichever religion I choose, or none at all.
Today, I could become a legal spouse.
Today, I get to show compassion to someone whose shoes I don’t want to walk in.
Today, I get to make food, to send via a loved one, on a plane, to an old friend.
Today, I get to smile.
Today, I get to breathe.
I get to
and enjoy,
Tomorrow I may have to go without all these things.
But today…today someone didn’t get to experience any of these,
yet they breathe,
and they hope,
and they keep moving forward,
with as much #EnjoyingBeing as they can,

Asking Better Questions About Breast Cancer

The image is of my notes with a pink ribbon sticker from the event next to a note I have stuck to my lap board. I think this is appropriate because to really make a difference in reducing cancer, not just cancer deaths, we have to be as bold and outside of the box as Ayn Rand.

I attended an event at one of my local hospitals. During this event, the hospital staff shared some of the latest things they are doing to improve the outcomes for their breast cancer patients and their families. I have to say, as a Wholistic practitioner, I was happy to see that there was some openness toward incorporating additional support therapies. Yet, I couldn’t help writhing in my seat listening to the MD experts (their statements are in bold, some paraphrased). I know that complaining or objecting is not the best way to seek a better solution so I started taking notes and working on creating some better questions. Hey, I even asked a couple, which is not my norm in situations like that because they tend to be controversial. Hey. I’m working on me too. Let me also say, I believe western medicine has a place in our society, but it’s failed miserably when it comes to chronic conditions.

So here are my notes, thoughts, and questions from that event. I hope it spurs thinking and questions in you too.

Getting a mammogram is part of prevention. Prevention of what? Testing to find an issue is not prevention of the issue because once you find it, it’s already there. What I know of the number range used in blood tests is that they are an indicator of disease, but being within the range does not mean you are healthy. In my early 20s, I had very low cholesterol, HDL and LDL, but it was often within range, sometimes by just a few points, so my doctor did not echo my concern. I eventually learned, on my own, that low cholesterol was connected to anxiety and depression, which I also experiencing. I get it…mammograms are credited with early detection and they increase the survival rate in the general population.

But words matter. Calling screening prevention means that there is nothing else one must do but get tested. Screenings are not preventive of a disease, though they might be preventive of death. Early detection is a better word choice. Understand though that early detection is still not prevention.

Breastfeeding reduces breast cancer risk. Black women are statistically less likely to breastfeed. My guess is this is a socio-economic issue involving income and education. Black women also statistically have a diagnosis in later stages of breast cancer and have higher death rates from breast cancer. I believe this is also socio-economic.

With what is now proven by epigenetics, why are BRCA genes still considered a risk factor and mastectomy is still recommended as the treatment? Genes don’t just malfunction; they express based on the information they receive via their internal and external environment. Our inner environment is influenced by everything from food to emotions. So taking out the breast tissue does not positively change the environment, it only creates another obstacle to normal body function because now the person has lost part of their endocrine system. I don’t see how the traditional western medicine approach fits this because with something like epigenetics because we all have different emotional interpretations for similar life experiences, which affect our internal environments differently. For this, it seems one would benefit from an emotional Coach as well as an MD.

The Radiation Oncologist talked about reducing the previously recommended treatment of 6-7 weeks of radiation to 3-4 weeks. The 3-4 week treatment was started in places like Canada because of their public health system and the number of patients. Other benefits include less tissue damage and patients getting back to some normalcy in their life sooner, all with the same level of health outcome. Which led me to ask, since they both work the same, where did the 6-7 week practice come from? To paraphrase his answer, it became standard treatment because that was the maximum amount of radiation that human tissue can take before it loses its ability to heal from the radiation. This came out of work done by a radiologist in the 1940s and 50s.

Are you freaking kidding me!!!!! For almost 80 years, we’ve been using a recommendation without review or question?!?!? So I don’t go off on a ranting tangent, I’ll just say, “This is why I question EVERYTHING.”

Cancer is defined as an uncontrolled proliferation of cells from the breast. According to, “nearly all cancers are capable of producing cysts. Cysts that appear uniform after examination by ultrasound or a computerized tomography (CT) scan are almost always benign and should simply be observed. If the cyst has solid components, it may be benign or malignant and should have further evaluation.”

A cyst is a sac that can contain air, fluid or matter/cells. To me, that shows the body’s ability to deal with its inner environment. by containing these abnormal cells. This also shows the potential danger a mammogram can cause by breaking that cyst. I understand that mammograms can be helpful and please know that the FDA still recommends mammography as the standard for early detection.

I want you to know that there are other options that can find changes in physiology before it becomes something like cancer, when lifestyle changes can more easily reverse inflammatory responses and increase health and vitality. Plus, only a biopsy can determine if it’s really cancer or not. If you choose to have a mammogram, make it an informed choice and not one just by default.

The Nordic Cochrane Center in Denmark, an independent body of researchers says this, “Screening produces patients with breast cancer from among healthy women who would never have developed symptoms of breast cancer. Treatment of these healthy women increases their risk of dying, e.g. from heart disease and cancer. It therefore no longer seems beneficial to attend for breast cancer screening. In fact, by avoiding going to screening, a woman will lower her risk of getting a breast cancer diagnosis. However, despite this, some women might still wish to go to screening.”

Again, make your decision an informed one. You can find the Nordic Cochrane Center’s published research here.

These are some my thoughts on breast cancer. What are yours?


Conversations Starters From The Florence, SC Shooting

I live in Florence, SC and if you are taking a well-earned hiatus from the news, you may not have heard about the gun-fire exchange that killed a police officer, injured six police and sheriff officers and 5 civilians including the shooter. Find a link to an article at the end of this post.

What conversations can be sparked from this incident?…which I was ready to have that evening, but wanted to wait for more of the story to be released. Now that more information has been shared, here goes….

Sensible gun laws.
It’s Saturday, three days after the Florence shooting and I’m sitting in my home listening, again, to gunshots from either hunting or practice. The “gun control” conversation is a hard one to have in a place like South Carolina. Folks have been drinking the ‘fear’ kool-aid, fed to them by their ‘preferred-party’ politicians for too long. They really believe their guns will be taken away, though I have yet to be given a reason other than the 2nd amendment for needing an arsenal of high-powered weapons. It amazes me to hear high school students talk about it with such knowing.

I’m not a hunter. I can only guess why high powered rifles are used for hunting big game. However, the problem we seem to be having is they are also being used on humans. I don’t have a “best” solution but I would not be against an all-out ban. You can use other weapons to hunt and yes, you can use other weapons to kill people too. What we need is more conversation without everyone being lost in their fear or anger.

Mental Illness.
The term ‘mental illness’ carries a lot of stigma and in some cases is not a proper descriptor. I believe it limits treatment options because it does not create much space for the option of resolving emotional trauma that can lead to conditions described as a mental illness, such as anxiety. For conditions like anxiety and PTSD, I think there should be an Emotional Illness classification.

People are healing from anxiety and PTSD but not with the traditional western medical model. The alternative models used help resolve the emotional interpretation of the traumatic event that led to the anxiety and PTSD. The memory of the event is not erased, however, the emotional trigger is quieted or resolved.

Change is possible, but usually only happens after it becomes a larger part of the mass consciousness; only when a lot more people know about it.

White privilege.
Another term that seems to spark anger. But help me understand:
1 — The shooter knew they were coming to his home. Does law enforcement give courtesy calls when they have a warrant?
2 — This man and his family have had other run-ins with the law but with him and his wife being lawyers (he was disbarred) they know how to work the system.
3 — How can you have a lengthy standoff with police and yet a man running away from a police officer is shot in the back?

I applaud the work of the law enforcement that responded to the Florence event and I know that not everyone can be lumped into the same bucket. But until I don’t worry about my five nephews, all different shades of a chocolate rainbow, being stopped by police and not making it home alive because a candy bar was mistaken for a weapon, we need to keep talking about this. And I did make some suggestions in a previous blog post.

And here’s a video about the issue of racial bias. I like this because it is emotionally intelligent and asks constructive questions.

The need for #emotionalliteracyforall.
The shooter’s request for a public defender makes we wonder if they had foster kids for the financial help it provides. My intent is not to negate the possibility that they did really want to help the kids in foster care. My intent is to understand how this family ended up in such a mess so that I don’t go down that road. Without knowing the ins and outs of their life, the only reasonable thing I’m coming up with is they were not good at living with open integrity — telling the truth even when it’s hard.

Our society teaches us to keep up appearances; to keep calm and carry on even when you are in emotional pain. Humans cannot live like this forever. Eventually, people lash out or we die from our internal conflict via an illness or suicide.

I love that more people are speaking out about the NORMAL things humans experience — love, loss, pain, death, hurt, and even the ins and outs of success. Like Bon Jovi says, “Life ain’t a merry-go-round; It’s a roller coaster.” No one gets through this life without being scathed by some emotional trauma. We humans have to become more emotionally open to riding life’s roller coaster. We all have to ride it.

“I can be mean as (expletive), sweet as candy, cold as winter, evil as hell or loyal like a soldier,” the post said. “It all depends on you.” This was a quote from the son of the Florence shooter.

I’m going to assume a lot of people believe this statement to be true for them because I’ve heard it over and over and over again from a wide variety of people over the course of my life. Are you saying that other people have that much control over you that you cannot act independently of what others think or say about you, or do to you? This may sound like being tough, bold, or brave, but this shows a need for emotional literacy. This shows how much easier it is to lash out at someone else instead of being with and working through your own emotional pain.

Humans really have a long way to go. Hopefully, more will choose to take positive growth lessons from this and not fall deeper into their ignorant and arrogant us vs them story. Citizens of the USA love to tout “freedom”, yet, I think we often forget the “responsibility” part that must accompany it. Knowing that we all learn by watching the example of others, I will do my best to be a positive example. That is my responsibility.

#weareallhuman #weareallamericans

Article about the Florence shooting.