Let’s Chat: What’s Disrupting You May Smell Good

This Let’s Chat has loads of info. There’s an info link, action step, and questions below the video. Thank for watching.

Endocrine disruptors are chemicals that may interfere with the body’s endocrine system and produce adverse developmental, reproductive, neurological, and immune effects in both humans and wildlife. A wide range of substances, both natural and man-made, are thought to cause endocrine disruption, including pharmaceuticals, dioxin and dioxin-like compounds, polychlorinated biphenyls, DDT and other pesticides, and plasticizers such as bisphenol A. Endocrine disruptors may be found in many everyday products– including plastic bottles, metal food cans, detergents, flame retardants, food, toys, cosmetics, and pesticides. The NIEHS supports studies to determine whether exposure to endocrine disruptors may result in human health effects including lowered fertility and an increased incidence of endometriosis and some cancers. Research shows that endocrine disruptors may pose the greatest risk during prenatal and early postnatal development when organ and neural systems are forming.  https://www.niehs.nih.gov/health/topics/agents/endocrine/index.cfm

In 2004, over 200 different industrial chemicals found in newborn cord blood.

There are chemicals in the air we breathe BUT they are chemicals found in a wide array of common household products — including furniture…and the things we put on our skin.

For 80 percent of the common chemicals in everyday use in this country we know almost nothing about whether or not they can damage the brains of children, the immune system, the reproductive system, and the other developing organs,”

The most helpful thing you can do for yourself is READ the INGREDIENTS list. Turning a bottle over, look away from the “buy-me” design on the front and read the ingredients list. You will start to get familiar with names and when you do look them up, you’ll better know what to avoid.

Do you have a fragrance story?
Who else out there thinks (or thought) something was wrong with them because they couldn’t do smells like everyone else?
Where do you stand now? What do you use?
What have you removed from your life, that doesn’t work for you or you can’t use? That I’m curious to know. And do you need help replacing fragrance containing items from your life? Comment below and I can gather a post with recommendations.

Finding Ease Through Courage

cour·age
noun
the ability to do something that frightens one.
strength in the face of pain or grief.
synonyms: bravery, courageousness, pluck, pluckiness, valor, fearlessness, intrepidity, nerve, daring, audacity, boldness, grit, true grit, hardihood, heroism, gallantry, guts, spunk, moxie, cojones, balls.

In the past couple years, it’s been a huge emotional queue when I land on my One Word. This time, I was listening to a Goalcast video with Oprah giving a speech at a graduation (I did not note which school). She shared these tips. 1 – Know who you are and what you want. 2 – Be of service; and 3 – Always do the right thing…and that’s when it became clear, immediately followed by a little fear and some tears. I want more ease in my actions and my being (my other One Word option), allowing miracles to flow into my life in greater quantity and that, that ease, was going to take courage. Courage to act when I don’t feel like it and when others don’t. Courage to admit I need help and ask for it. Courage to speak up, to take action, to believe. 2018 will be the year of building my courage muscle.

And if you haven’t guessed by now, my One Word for 2018 is COURAGE.

Did your One Word find you? Come share and maybe even get some inspiration in our Facebook group.

Walking into 2018 like…


As I left the Panera Bread I realized that a shift happened, though I can’t pinpoint when (like with most personal growth). Yet, the way I walked through that space and time a few minutes before was different.
I was confident and open.
I was at ease.
I realized that though I went through the year without earning much, I lacked for nothing. Everything I needed had been provided one way or another. I realized that I did not have to compromise my lifestyle (eating and living non-toxic). I realized I had places that I belonged to. I realized I was loved and cared for. I realize that I was happy belonging to myself. I remember how at times I was unable or uncomfortable spending $15 on lunch or at other times felt undeserving of someone spending that on me. But at that moment I realized that I was enough in my imperfection. That I was neither broke nor broken. That I was abundant and whole, the way my Creator intended it. That I belonged in my life and my calling.

As I sat in the parking lot checking my phone, I opened up an Instagram message from my friend @thisgirlnamedjoy and it was this…

Happy last Friday of 2017, y'all! Make it spectacular! Via @vybesource

A post shared by Astrology & Angel Mediums (@astrologyangelmediums) on

Yup, I’m owning that!

To 2017 I say, “thank you,” for the fun memories and the learned lessons.

Alright 2018, show me what you got. I’m ready to step into an even greater path in my life. I’m ready to own my calling even more. I’m ready to walk the hard trails and the easy paths with the same openness and enthusiasm. I’m ready to be scared and excited at the same time. I’m ready to create more impact and embrace all the fallout that comes with that. I’m ready to be a better Roanne. I’m ready to shine.

Let’s Chat: Alabama and your health

Here are two stories.
I’ve heard women in my friend circle question why these women would support Roy Moore, denouncing the allegations of sexual misconduct and the women who made them.
I heard a woman talk about a friend of hers that overcame cancer by changing his lifestyle. But this one line in her presentation was what really hooked me. It was my big ah-ha. She said we all watched him be sick change his lifestyle and get better but none of us thought oh we should change our lifestyle too. 3 years later she had cancer as well. Of course, she later did all the changes her friend did and beat her cancer too. (Note to self: find that video).
Realization one:
Things that are new and different create resistance for the average human being. Our brains say, “Well this is new! I don’t know what this is. It’s scarry!” It’s a protection mechanism, even if the new thing is something that is good for us.

The point of both stories is to not be so afraid of things that are different, be it in politics or in lifestyle. I’ve tried to have conversations in the past couple days on Facebook, asking questions and sharing facts that have been met with closed minded, judgemental responses. I pray that I will never be so closed minded that I cannot even back up my point of view with reasoning and facts. It begs the question, “What are you so afraid of?”

Be open to new information. Even when it seems scary at first. Be curious about it. Ask lots of questions. Move in closer. Don’t just automatically write it off or think it doesn’t apply to you. Don’t let it be too late when you realize you should have been more curious about that new, different thing.

Take away: Roanne’s ABCs for life: Always Be Curious.

And here’s this weeks video:
PS – there’s an archive of all the Let’s Chat videos at this link. See ya next Sunday.

Events on tap – December 2017

I’m usually a bit weary of the phrase, “I’m so excited!”, probably just from hearing every Network Marketing Leader or personal development coach say it when announcing something new…but alas, I’m so excited!, LOLZ  to invite you to my workshops happening in December. Yes, I said it. It felt right lol!

First, a FREE One Word Workshop on December 3rd at 5 PM. I’ve used One Word for five years and I love it more each time. It’s much more than just picking a word at random that may sound good to you. There is a process and you must take the time to do it or you can miss the intended mark. One year, I rushed through my process and my results were just so-so, while the other times, they were life-changing. It’s totally free but you must register for the workshop at http://oneword.enjoyingbeing.me.

Then there’s Ready. Set. Goal. A guided goal setting workshop using my not-so-secret tool – this Goal Journal.

I this workshop you will:

– set wholistic goals for your life because every part of our life affects the other;

– ‎learn the single most important thing in setting goals;

– ‎Learn what to focus on;

– ‎receive tools to help you stay on track toward achieving your goals;

– have ‎Post-workshop support in our Facebook group.

There are several options when you visit http://tickets.enjoyingbeing.me.

Tis the season for family, fun, and getting ready for the new year. It’s my goal to make it my best yet; let’s do it together.

What’s one goal you want to achieve in 2018?

 

Grateful. Thankful. Blessed.

So I’m sitting to write this post two days after I planned and all is well in my world. I could grumble about the mis-adventures of the last two days, but they are passed. I’m here with my family, my four younger nephews, my mom, I’m well, I’m warm, I’m fed, I even had money to spend on Black Friday and got exactly what I wanted. Thankful. Grateful. Blessed.

I’ve learned to leave space for miracles in my life, even when things are not going as planned. Below is a picture of one recent miracle. I was doing recon for supplies and unconsciously sat my keys down. While on line to check-out, I remembered that I didn’t check for a particular kind of clip so I returned to look and behold, my keys were right where I was looking for the clips.

One thing that helps me keep perspective is looking back, through my social media postings, through old photos, through my journal and even though this blog. Last year I did 7 Day of Thanks. I talked about being grateful for the state of our country (Day 1) to modern-day allowances (Day 5). You can check them out for a little gratitude inspiration.

Day 1: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/22/7-days-of-thanks-day-1/

Day 2: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/23/7-days-of-thanks-day-2/

Day 3: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/24/7-days-of-thanks-day-3/

Day 4: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/25/7-day-of-thanks-day-4/

Day 5: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/26/7-day-of-thanks-day-5/

Day 6: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/27/7-days-of-thanks-day-6/

Day 7: https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2016/11/28/7-day-of-thanks-day-7/

My 2017 has been an amazing journey, and it’s not over yet. There’s still space for more miracles and for me to be even more thankful, more grateful, more blessed…and to share that with you.

Since quitting my job and moving to South Carolina…


…I see the sky more.
I knew clouds were beautiful but the formations that I now have the time and space to notice are absolutely amazing. The above is an actual photo taken in spring 2017 in Florence, SC. Seeing these cloud paintings, and all the beauty of nature, reminds me of my Creator, the perfect example of Love.

…I can handle stress better. Tight deadlines and crazy plans don’t shake me like they used to. That doesn’t mean they don’t happen or I don’t react with the crazies, but I do react less and I can gain my footing faster when things crumble.

…I’m a better me – more patient more kind more tolerant, and I can allow more ease in my life. I’m taking more time to wellness in my life. Before, I would be in constant ‘doing’ mode. Now, I allow more time for ‘being’. My monkey mind still opposes often, and it’s ranting still deter me, but only sometimes.

…I can say, “No.” – make sure you read the period. I’ve always felt the need to follow my no’s with an explanation, or precede them with an “I’m sorry.” And I will admit, sometimes I still do it but knowing that I can say ‘no’ without any explanation has helped me agonize less about doing things I’d prefer not to. Now, I just don’t. Period.

…I’m a really awesome person. (selfie)
I’m smart and kind and a problem-solving wiz. I’m beautiful and I deserve love and happiness in my life. It’s really easy to forget these things when caught up in a daily grind with barely enough time to come up for air.

I’m not saying you need to quit your job to get these benefits. I do think that doing something bold and brave and that scares you, helps you on that path to #EnjoyingBeing: being your best you and thus living your best life. Sometimes, it’s just taking a moment to enjoy and appreciate the moments of joy that we do get.

And BTW, creating personal change, growing a new you in the midst of life happening can be scary, but is definitely bold and brave.

Saving and Earning Your Way To Personal Development

Saving has never been my strong point. Yet, I don’t think we give enough credit to saving as a mutual-faceted tool for personal development. It provides happiness on multiple levels. The pursuit of a goal is one way. Laying out a savings plan can be simple, the action steps even simpler, and the reward is very tangible. One missed paycheck could spell disaster for an individual or family. Knowing that you have a financial cushion is a wonderful stress reducer and lower stress alone can have many beneficial repercussions in our life.

A 2017 article on CNN Money http://money.cnn.com/2017/01/12/pf/americans-lack-of-savings/ shared that six out of 10 Americans could not cover a $500 bill if they needed to. I will admit that was also me, at too many points in my adult life. And while I’m a long way from my money freedom goal, it feels good to be on my way. Money equals access and on this self-improvement journey, a journey of growing into my best self by overcoming challenges, it is something I am challenged to be better at.

But why is saving so hard for most Americans?

I believe that it was something that modern Americans never had to learn. According to this article from Wisebread, in the 1950s, after WWII, was when a large percentage of America started having discretionary income: extra dollars to do whatever we wanted with. Prior to this, saving was mandatory if you wanted to purchase anything of a significant price. But now, we can have houses, cars and any other grown-up toys that catch our attention, most often without a wait. Yet, saving is the smart thing to do, for now, and later.

So what am I doing?

I am a huge fan of tools, so while my income is not $500K, yet, here are tools I use to help me earn extra income and keep more of those earned dollars. Each of these tools are easy (most are quickly done too) because I believe if I have to spend a lot of time on it, then it doesn’t feel worth my time. Flexibility is another benefit I look for. Maybe you’ll find something on my list to add to yours.

Ibotta (Get a $10 bonus)

Ibotta is a rebate app, no stamps or envelopes required. Everything from activating the rebates to submitting your receipts is done right in the app. Some stores are linked to your loyalty card so you don’t even need to submit your receipt after your purchase.

I’ve been using Ibotta since April 2017, I’ve gotten back $120+; and this is from money I would have spent anyway because I do have to eat. What I love about Ibotta is how quick and easy it is to use. The search feature is very helpful, finding specific products and/or stores where the rebates are available. There is even a $10 enrollment bonus. NOTE: There is no minimum purchase (my friend bought a can of tuna that had a rebate), but you must submit your first receipt within seven (7) days of enrolling. Click to get the bonus.

Ebates (Get a $10 bonus)

Cash back for shopping at Groupon, Amazon, and Vitacost? Yes, please! I remember checking out Ebates maybe 10 years ago and was not in the least interested because the pickings were slim – not many stores and even less than I would regularly shop from. But they have grown and so have the options they offer. Seriously? Cash back from Groupon??!? #swoon

This was my very first rebate deposit from a single food purchase from jet.com through ebates. It does include my signup bones, but can you say sweet?!?

Thrift shopping

I love a bargain…why pay more if I don’t have to. When I purchased my first home, I probably spent $2000 total on furnishing the entire house, including a kitchen full of dishes. The highest cost item I bought was my mattress for $600 from Costco. Most everything else was thrifted, including a Lane Cedar chest that I paid $50 for. Salvation Army stores can be a good resource. I was fortunate to work across the street from a very large one. I also searched Craigslist and went to estate sales. This admittedly does take some time, but the finds can be pretty cool and the savings can be tremendous.

On the lookout for tricky labeling. (supermarket deals)

How long did it take you spot the deal in the above picture? Advertisers earn big bucks to separate you from your money, but it doesn’t take much to be a savvy shopper. Keep your eyes opened and read pricing labels. For example, in the pictures below, the more eye-catching yellow label reads “Low Price”, yet the closeout item tag is a darker color, but costs way less. I have found bronze die organic pasta for $.72 a pack on closeout. Keep your eyes opened and read pricing labels (yes, I said that before).

After you’ve saved all you can, how about earning some extra bucks?

Lyft is a ridesharing service with a better moral compass than Uber (in my experience.) Being a driver for a service like Lyft can be a win-win. First, you are providing a service to your community. Second, especially if you live where I do, any additional transportation option is helpful as the public transit system is almost non-existent and traditional taxis charge gouging prices. Lyft offers new drivers a bonus. For example, right now, new drivers in New Jersey can get an extra $800 in thier first 60 days. (Click here for a bonus code) and it’s super easy to sign up and start driving. As I’ve been a driver (in SC, NC and NJ) and in the spirit of what Lyft is as a community, you can message me if you have questions about driving for Lyft.

There have been several things that influenced my want to get better; two books worth mentioning are Money: A Love Story by Kate Northrup and Money: Master the Game by Tony Robbins; the latter is a very good audible listen. I’m on my second go-round. Additionally, these articles have additional ideas/suggestions on how you can find your savings dollars.

Huff Post article – 27 Sneaky Ways To Save $100s A Month
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/08/money-saving-tips-_n_5548116.html

The Budgetnista Blog
http://thebudgetnistablog.com/thebudgetnista-com/

Now that you have the scoop, which friend are you going to share these saving strategies with?

“Pause boo.”

Maybe this will be a blog post, maybe not.
I am sad.
I feel hurt.
I feel like I’ve suffered a big lost.
My water bottle was left in a taxi.
Yes, my 40oz, stainless steel, insulated, water bottle…in the back of the vehicle.
And I’m feeling pretty down about it. A little too down for my objective mind. But we are emotional beings, so what is up with this? It’s a bottle after all…a material thing that can be replaced. Yet, I want to cry. Just the way I wanted to cry last night when I allowed the events of the evening to make me eat later than I prefer.

I know what it feels like to be depressed and this is too close for comfort. I dislike that feeling and I dislike feeling it. Maybe it’s because the bottle was an investment for me, at a time when I was financially tight. I loved how it kept my water cold even without loads of ice. I even wrote it on my gratitude list the other night.

Or maybe this incident exaggerates the biggest issue of feeling like “I always get the short end of the stick.” Notice I said, “feeling like.” It’s a belief that comes up for me when things aren’t going so great. I know it’s not true because I have so many amazing blessings in my life, yet I still wish this feeling didn’t happen for me.

I’ve spent my last three weeks in NJ. When I’m there, I attempt to keep myself scheduled and on track by keeping my personal schedule light and lots of flex time for my family demands. Yet, my schedule more often than not gets the second chair. With everything else going on in my life, it’s hard not to feel like I’m coming apart at the seams when this happens. In that, it’s hard for me to find the emotional buoyancy I like to have.

Yet, for ease to be in my life, I’ve learned that must feel it, emotionally. Hence my One Word for this year, ‘release.’

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I drafted the above post while traveling this past summer. Because I’ve been ‘working on me’ for several years now, I’ve learned to be more objective even when I’m in my feelings. I’ve learned to pause.

Writing provides me a pause; so does anything that allows me to be fully in my body and mind – walking, yoga, art/craft, cooking, meditation, being in nature.

Pausing is one of the most important life tools we have, yet it is so underutilized. We as a human species are so disconnected from who we have the potential to be because we do not pause enough, some not at all. How can we hear God’s voice, our intuition, our spiritual GPS if we don’t stop long enough to listen? Even to use a process such as Rising Strong (by Brene Brown) we must employ the pause. The pause is necessary for #EnjoyingBeing.

I will leave you with some eloquent yet applicable words from Iynla Vanzant. You can read a summary of her SuperSoul episode here.

“…If you don’t take a minute to breathe, to gather yourself… you will do what you’ve always done,” Iyanla explains. “So, the lesson is: Pause. We go from being 20 to 30 without a pause. Thirty to 40 without a pause. We go from one job to the next. From one bed to the next,” Iyanla says. “Pause, boo. Take a breath…The truth will set you free, but you have to endure the labor pains of birthing it.”

How do you (or how can you) employ the pause in your life?