Everything’s A Choice

I was so anxious I could feel it in my stomach. This was the first time I was driving by myself from South Carolina to New Jersey an estimated 12 hours on the road. I had two travel options — leave Wednesday, overnight in Virginia and continue on the next day, or, leave Thursday after my monthly networking meeting and drive straight through. I had to be in New York on Friday morning for my nephew’s graduation (for several reasons whose details don’t matter for this post). I needed to be there.

The blessing in being.

Just the sound of the word ‘being’ makes me aware of my presence and action in the present moment. Yet, my #EnjoyingBeing was being challenged by my decided schedule.

I love our monthly networking meetings with the Pee Dee Business and Professional Women Network. Knowing that I was already going to miss our July meeting I really did not want to miss June’s. The days prior to this meeting were spent in focused preparation. I had work plus packing and prep because I decided on the latter travel option — leaving directly after our monthly meeting and driving straight to New Jersey. Plus, I was planning to be away for two months so I had to ready my place for my being away also.

The preparation was moving along. Slowly but surely, my habit of anxiety started creeping in. How was I going to drive 12 hours? Do I even have enough gas money to get there? What if I got sick on the road, again? That sick sinking feeling was growing in my stomach.

When I first made the decision to stay for my meeting and drive after, it felt like the right thing to do and I felt confident about it. However, this anxious feeling became noticeable during a conversation with a loved one, who I’m sure meant well in sharing their opinion.

Well, as a coach I use the same tools I share. A few rounds of EFT, essential oils in the diffuser and in my mouth, lavender under the nose, brainwave entrainment on repeat and 24 hours later, though I had some moments of reprieve, that pit-of-my-stomach anxiety was still there.

The thing you’re avoiding is what you most need.

It could have been an audible voice because it was so clear to me, “Just get everything packed. Whatever happens after that you can deal but you can’t deal with not having your passport and other necessities for your upcoming trip, so pack.”

So I packed, even though I felt sick to my stomach. When I was done I did another foot bath, said a prayer, put on Louise Hay’s evening meditation and went to bed.

About an hour and a half before my alarm the next morning I was awake. And while I slept okay it was not great. I was also felt okay, but not great. Then came another really strong thought, “I have exactly enough time to do a castor oil pack treatment.”

It didn’t take long for me to realize that it had been a while since I’d done one and my symptoms of the past week, including occasional fits of sneezing and itchy nose, would be helped by this treatment. So I reached for my flannel and castor oil put it on and crawled back under the covers.

When I awakened again about an hour and 20 minutes later I felt so much better. This is going to work out just fine. That is when I started to have really clear, positive thoughts. I reminded myself that there were people praying for my safe journey, that spending my summer in NJ was something I wanted to do since March, that life is outside our total control and we can only do the best we can at any given moment, that I was safe and all was well.


My body knows how to do anxiety. It is a habit. However, I set my intention clearly and then took action, believing that God always has my best interest at heart. Then, whatever the outcome is, I purpose to chose to be content. That does not mean that I don’t experience all the human emotions, including panic, but I don’t let them derail me. In hindsight, I realize that allowing myself to be okay with the anxiety I was feeling and other discomforting thoughts was the biggest shift I made. Being able to consciously interrupt those thoughts with verbalizations of fact and thoughts of my interactions with my loved ones was very helpful in changing that pattern of panic.

Just so you know, this story ended very well. Thursday was an amazing day. My meeting was great and it was a good thing I was there because a few other board members were not able to make it. One lady loved my goal journal so much she bought one on the spot, and I got a bulk order request. My drive to NJ was very smooth and enjoyable. I made it in good time to get some sleep and get to my nephew’s graduation the following morning. All with no anxiety.

But the moral of this story is not in the ending; it was in the journey. Like life, it is ALL in the journey. It is in how we choose to react in any given moment. Funnily enough, I’ll close this post with a quote from Viktor Frankl. It was his book, Man’s Search For Meaning, which was my companion for part of my drive to NJ. Viktor Frankl was a psychiatrist and spent time in four different holocaust camps. Many of the words in his book struck a cord with me, but these fit this post best: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Let’s Chat: from my belly to my teeth, diabetes and enzymes.

The problem with my teeth came back. Well, it didn’t just come back, I allowed it to come back with my actions – mostly consuming too much sugar. Let me be clear: it’s not necessarily the sugar passing over your teeth, but the effect sugar has on our gut that causes problems with our teeth.

Sugar and our gut? There is mounting evidence, more like mountains of evidence that so much of health is affected by what happens in our gut. Too much sugar puts a strain on our pancreas and liver and causes havoc for our little bacteria friends living in our gut. It is not the sole cause for conditions like SIBO (small intestine bacterial overgrowth), but with the predominant lifestyle and diets of today, it is a big contributor. There’s a really good article on SIBO here.

Diabetes came into the picture after having a conversation with a friend who’s diabetic and he commented that he wanted something to help tone his liver and get rid of the fatty deposits in his liver.

So I asked him is he gets a film on his teeth after a meal? And his answer was as I suspected, “Yes.” My next question was “do you sleep through the night?” and as suspected, he did not. He then mentioned a tooth problem he had a few month ago. I then had one recommendation for him to help his sleeping, liver, teeth and in the process, his diabetes.

Enzymes. Specifically a multi enzyme supplement.

Enzymes are like little constructions workers, they break down and they help build. And you need multiple ones because they all have a specific job they do. Protease breaks down protein, lipase breaks down fats, amylase – carbs.

Unless your eating plenty of raw, organic vegetables then chances are you need a multi-enzyme. When not breaking down your food, they are helping with tons on other functions in your body, including cleanup. Enough enzymes means your digestion is better, which reduces bacterial imbalance and overgrowth in your intestines which leads to a host of other issues in our bodies including leaky guy, immune dysfunction.

But what about access to the nutrition you are giving your body. If it’s not getting broken down properly, then you are not accessing it and it can’t do anything to help your body be better.

My personal testimony has to do with taking an enzyme before bed. I’ve talked before about your liver and sleep and if you are not sleeping through the night a good enzyme formula before bed will help aid your liver function (which at night is to detox) and will help you sleep better. A few years ago while on my healing journey from a-fib, there were periods of time when I would wake up every 1-2 hours during the night. One huge helper was taking a couple enzymes before I went to bed.

I told my friend I would grab some recommendations for him and I thought, why not share it with you all to0. My recommendations are based on products I have used or have no reservation about using.

NOW Super Enzymes 180 Capsules – I love that is has Ox bile in it for additional gallbladder support.

Rainbow Light Advanced Enzyme System 180 Vegetarian Capsules – this has great herbal compliments in it.

Garden of Life O-Zyme Ultra Ultimate Digestive Enzyme Blend 90 Vegetarian Capsules

And of course, here is the Let’s Chat video; do like it, share it and leave a comment.


I found an interesting forum thread on the same subject of diabetes and enzymes.

Lighten up for summer: Whole Juice vs Smoothies

It’s definitely warm now here in South Carolina and time for cold (in my case, cool) drinks. Smoothies are great anytime of the year, but summer for me requires lighting up. Heavy meals and feeling stuffed don’t fair well most anytime, but especially when it’s hot. But what if you still what to get all the whole food goodness into you? My solution: whole juice.

It really comes down to a texture thing. Smoothies are usually thicker versus juice which is more liquid. The recipe for the accompanying video still incorporates the entire fruit/green/vegetable, so you get the fiber as well as the nutrients. You’ll get a better idea of the texture in the video and you’ll find the recipe just under it.

Recipe (tweak to your liking):

Dandelion leaves (I used 6- 4″ leaves)

Beet (about a 2oz piece)

1 1/2 tsp acerola cherry powder

2 tsp  raw honey

16-20 oz water


1 oz of apple cider vinegar

4 oz of ginger water kefir + the ginger pieces.


Add 3 ice cubes and blend again. #yum

I’ll surely be playing with whole juices this summer.  Do you have a favorite drink to enjoy in the summer? Or what whole juices are thinking of trying?

I also did this Sunday’s Let’s Chat on lightening up your emotions. You can watch that episode here.

Quote: A Good Day, Everyday.

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“Choose to have a good day…everyday.” ~ Roanne Bacchus

Things I like: Royaltie Gems

#ProximityMarketing | reachyour.market

My curiosity often gets the best of me, and every so often, it leads me to something pretty cool. Recently, it’s the Royaltie Gem; and it’s making the next advertising frontier, mobile devices, accessible to everyone.

Without spending hundreds of dollars on app development, you can automatically promote your business on every nearby Android phone. Hooray!

Say what!?! Yes. #exciting. If you are a business owner, can you imagine the reach? The applications to your business? The increased customer engagement? The increased revenue?

This is how it works. A tiny wireless device called a Royaltie Gem is sent to you. You decide the promotional message you want to broadcast. The Royaltie Gem sends your message to every nearby Android smartphone. Simple.

Royaltie Gem Proximity Marketing Device Why Android phones? In December 2016, there was a change in the android operating system that allowed for nearby notifications. This is not yet available on iPhones. However, Android represents 60% of the North American smartphone market and 85% of users outside of North America.

The Royaltie Gem is battery powered and lasts two years. It does not require cellular data or a Wifi connection. To receive Royaltie messages, the phone just needs Bluetooth turned on. Are you one of the many people who already keep their bluetooth on to connect to their headsets, vehicle or other devices?

There are no set up fees. No hidden fees. A $50 deposit and $29/month for three devices. There is an additional shipping charge outside the US. That’s it. It arrives up and running. Actually, one of the best testimonies I’ve heard is of a gentleman getting page views while his Gem was in transit to him.

The Royaltie Gem provides:

– an automatic way to promote your business on every nearby Android phone;

– unlimited messaging included in the low monthly fee;

– a simple way to connect with people you would not have otherwise.

I have not even received mine yet, but I’m excited. I’m also excited about the two-tier affiliate earning opportunity they provide. To find out more about the affiliate program, schedule a call with me.

Or click to check out the Royaltie Gem now.


Disclosure: I am a registered affiliate of Royaltie Gem. I only share products that I have used or have no reservation about using and the opinions expressed are fully my own.

Let’s Chat: Are you thirsty?

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Last week felt like the unofficial start of summer here in South Carolina. Friday 90 degrees F, Saturday 90, Sunday 85…this is usually the time of year that I get caught without enough…water. Most people know that I always have water with me, but when it starts heating up, I definitely need to up my water intake.

This is because through increased sweating, my body is loosing more water. And that’s is a positive event, because in spring, our bodies go through a seasonally-induced detox, getting rid of the stagnancies of winter for the lightness and brightness of spring. Having a little extra water helps that process.

I grew up hearing that ‘by the time you feel thirsty, you’re already dehydrated.’ That is now touted as a myth, but I say, why give yourself a constant uphill way to deal with hydration. Why not just avoid the hill if you can. Here are three ways:
– Start your day with at least a glass of water (whatever the glass is to you – 6oz or 26 oz).
– Keep water with you at all times. When I used to experience anxiety attacks, sipping water would help my body relax.
– Be mindful of your water intake throughout the day. Pay special attention when you’re out in the warmer weather or doing activities that make you perspire and make sure your drinking through the day.

Having enough water is uber important. Secondly, and depending on your activities, diet and level of perspiration, you must make sure you’re also getting adequate electrolytes. They are needed for your body to properly use the water you’re drinking; including having equilibrium i.e. not retaining unnecessary water.

Electrolytes are “Minerals in your blood and other body fluids that carry an electric charge. It is important for the balance of electrolytes in your body to be maintained, because they affect the amount of water in your body, blood pH, muscle action, and other important processes. Electrolytes exist in the blood as acids, bases, and salts (such as sodium, calcium, potassium, chlorine, magnesium, and bicarbonate)…”(1)

While sports drinks are touted for electrolytes, they also have sugar, sometimes artificial and that does not fit my M.O. My two favorite ways of getting electrolytes are with a naturally dried (air, sun) sea salt and black strap molasses.

Tropical fruits such as citrus also provide electrolytes and living in a tropical place definitely warrants the use of electrolytes. I believe that God is the perfect designer, putting just what we need where we need it, when we need it.

So, here’s to staying hydrated so you can keep up with all your summer fun.

(1) http://dictionary.webmd.com/electrolytes

I lied. I’m sorry. I love you.

I didn’t mean to, but in hindsight, I realized that I did. I lied to myself and in so doing, I lied to you. I am sorry.

When my tooth started bothering me a couple weeks ago, I was faced with the opportunity to walk my talk. Stepping up my actions to creating natural healing for my teeth took me head to head with my words. I’ve been doing my Let’s Chat Facebook Lives for four months now, sharing ways to improve our wellness naturally. I’ve shared my own journey and most of what I share, I’ve personally done. I started doing these because I’ve walked the road of illness and I’ve walked the natural path to wellness. I know that simple shifts in our lifestyle can create big shifts in our wellness. It is truth to me and so sharing comes from my heart.

But I was fooling myself, coasting along, doing a so-so job on myself. My 60% looked like someone else 100% and so I fooled myself into thinking I was doing my best. It’s amazing how pain and discomfort can wake us up. I had to step up my action, increasing my nutritional intake and eliminating the bad stuff which for me is mostly sugar. I was coasting, not paying attention to the extra sugar I was consuming until about five days into the protocol for my teeth, when I could suppress the craving no more. See what I did here.

PS – the effect sugar has on our gut causes more damage than it’s direct effect on our teeth. Stay tuned for a full post on this protocol.

It’s important to note that I’m also a recovering people pleaser and standing out from the crowd still stings a bit. Announcing something that could possibly be a failure later was not something I did. If I shared it, I had to be 95% sure, or else, it stayed in my vault. Intellectually, I know the road to success is paved with failures, but knowing and doing…not the same thing.

So why my confession now?

For several reasons that could all be summed up into, “I’m loving me more.” Here’s how.

I came across an old journal entry from just over a year ago. It read, “Gay Hendricks – Happiness is a feeling about your feelings. A subtle pleasant sensation that comes from being open to your emotions, open the the present moment, and open to life.” When we are not 100% in integrity with ourselves, we know, especially if we are open to our feelings.

I realize that I’ve gotten better at saying “No.” and not feeling guilty over it. I help. I give of myself, my time and resources. I care. I love. And, I must take care of myself first so that I can do all those things. I know this; not just intellectually now, but in practice. I’m not perfect at it, but I way better than I used to be.

Also, an unhealthy relationship with our emotions can have a negative effect on our health. No thanks, I’ll pass.

To make this a true confession post, here are two times I’ve not been truthful with myself. And while I gained lessons (and some awesome friends and experiences from them), they honestly did not work out how I hoped.

First, was aligning myself with a company whose products I was not 100% in agreement with. I was about 90% and I thought that was good enough. The products were really good, but there were aspects of them that I didn’t agree with completely, based on my wellness knowledge. Yet, I convinced myself that though it was not what I would consider a standard, it was close and that was okay. A lie by any percentage is still a lie.

Second was letting my assumption of the reaction of others, curtail my action. My many personal development trainings had taught me that our reactions are based on our beliefs so when others react to what I do or say, it’s not because of me, it is because of what they hold true. Yet, there were too many times I did not fully practice this by not sharing my ideas openly and honestly.

Lisa Nicols says that true freedom comes when you have, “nothing to protect; nothing to hide, nothing to prove and nothing to defend.” I want to live my life to the fullest and freedom is a value I claim to hold close. If nothing else, my 2016 one word, “Open” was a lesson in this.

So I’m embracing my 2017 one word, “Release” and I’m confessing to myself and you. And I’m forgiving myself for not being totally honest with me. And I’m promising myself that I will be completely honest with me; even if I have to be the only one standing for what I hold as true…because, I love you Roanne.

Is there something you need to forgive yourself for?

Quote: Earth Day 2017

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If we, as citizens of the earth, stop consuming toxic products, companies will soon stop making them. ~ Roanne Bacchus

Happy Earth Day 2017.

Let’s Chat: Liver Love

My friend posted an article on Facebook about night sweats remedies, which in turn, prompted this Let’s Chat. For reference, the link to the article is at the end of this post.

My first thought was that the night sweats had to be affiliated with liver function. Sweating means the body is generating heat to create an exchange, plus, then it’s happening at night which is primary body detox time. The liver has over 500 functions but let’s keep it simple: digest and detoxify.

When I read the recommendations in the article, two things jumped out at me:
– About mid way through the list was a pill recommendation. Medicine has its place, but it does not fix the dysfunction that’s happening in the body; and often times, the dysfunction is doing it’s best to  help the body do what it needs to do anyway.
– Last on the list of recommendations was this, “Drinking alcohol before bed can cause night sweats. Spicy foods can have the same effect.” While both these things can have the same effect, the interact with the body differently – one destructively, one constructively. You may be able to guess which does what.

There is  a growing liver issue in the United States called Nonalcoholic Fatty Liver. According to an article from the Mayo Clinic, Nonalcoholic Fatty Liver “In the United States, it is the most common form of chronic liver disease, affecting an estimated 80 to 100 million people.”

Nonalcoholic Fatty Liver disease is an umbrella term for a range of liver conditions affecting people who drink little to no alcohol. As the name implies, the main characteristic of nonalcoholic fatty liver disease is too much fat stored in liver cells.”

I talk more about this and make more connections in my Facebook live. The jist is that with the excess of sugar, like what currently exists in so many foods today, nonalcoholic fatty liver a no-brainer. Our livers are stressed and overwhelmed and night sweats becomes one way our bodies try to save itself.

But what do you do about that?

One popular treatment (also touted for weight loss) is Lemon/ACV/Lemonade diet. Google can give you lots on information on these, but be mindful that there is no single, magic bullet for your wellness. Especially with the state of our environment and our food, detox must be a regular part our life. This does not mean take a diarrhea inducing pill. Detox is more holistic than that and can include foods such as tumeric which supports the liver in it’s functions, including detox.

Here’s a list of other ways to help this function of your liver.

– Herbs/teas: Dandelion (plentiful and free in the spring); any herb that is a blood purifier because they help reduce acidity in and help the body get rid of waste
– foot bath/full body soak with 3 parts epsom salts to 1 part backing soda. Also helps with magnesium (a very abundant mineral that we are chronically deficient in).
– Water (start by drinking enough), then getting electrolytes so you body can use the water (air-dried sea salt + black strap molasses).
– Healthy fats and lots of them
– Hot foods: peppers, ginger.
– Exercise (to help circulation and your liver get rid of it’s waste)
– Enzyme supplements before bed (when not digesting, they are cleaning, look for a complex with a variety of the ase’s)
– Getting enough sleep, starting before midnight.
– In some eastern medicine traditions, the liver is the decision organ. Decide then act. More in the video.
– Extras: Coffee enemas and caster oil packs.

Help your liver digest and detoxify well and you’ll feel awesome, without the night sweats.

Article that prompted this post: http://blackdoctor.org/442749/night-sweat-relief/2/.