One Week, Endless Possibilities For All Kids (3/20-27)

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As a child, what lesson did you learn that had the most positive impact on the adult you?

For those who know me, even a little, know that I have the most amazing nephews and god-daughters, and I’ve worked with kids since my teens. I definitely hold a space for them because I’ve been blessed to have some caring, giving adults bless me with positive life lessons while growing up.

While creating what turned out to be my first Kickstarter, the Goal Journals pictured above, I held the idea of doing something for kids, because I want the amazing little people in my life to be uber successful at their lives. Then Kickstarter launched an #allin1 campaign for March. Maybe it’s my lack of resistance for a design challenge or just good timing, but it was the ideal restriction* for me to move forward with the design of the Kiddie Version.

The plan is for it to be a digital product so you can print and work on one goal after the next and replace the sections as needed. You’ll be giving exceptional value to your kid whether working on a goal for the month or the school year.

We know how quickly kids grow out of clothes, or if their like one of my nephews, you can identify his pants by the holes in the knees. But with this Goal Journal, your child will be growing into the habit of achievement. And remember, pursing goals is proven to increase our happiness. Best. Investment. EVER!

Be ready to jump in and claim your reward starting Monday 3/20 as the campaign runs for one week only. Click to preview the Kickstarter page. You’ll find the (short) timeline, the initial preview of a couple journal pages and and you can leave me feedback or questions there too.

So, can you think of that positive lesson you learned as a kid that is most beneficial to you as a grown-up?

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Let’s Chat: Symptoms

If you needed a sign that NOW is the time to be the one responsible for your wellness, this is it – http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/health/ct-first-year-doctors-work-24-hour-shifts-20170310-story,amp.html – a blaring siren is there ever was one.

While your doctor may be the ‘professional’, you are the CEO, the managing partner; you make the final decision.

The idea I want to share is that a symptom/disease requires a different approach to fixing it. The chemical approach is common place but science in the last 20 years have been debunking that.

Let’s start by understanding what a symptom/disease is. Here are some definitions.

Symptom: a physical or mental feature that is regarded as indicating a condition of disease
Feature: a distinctive attribute or aspect of something.
Condition: the state of something
Regarded: consider or think of
Indicate: point out, show, suggest as
Disease: a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant
Syndrome: a group of symptoms that consistently occur together or a condition characterized by a set of associated symptoms.
diagnosis: the identification of the nature of (an illness or other) ‘a’ problem by examination of the symptoms
natural: the basic or inherent features of something, especially when seen as characteristic of it

Based on this, symptoms are the only thing we should be paying attention to. Here is my compiled definition of a symptom: a physical or mental attribute (or aspect) that is considered as suggesting the state of a disorder of structure of function (in a human). With that, a symptom can be anything that does not feel right, or feels uncomfortable in your body.

The problem now lies in that we’ve created drugs to kill/treat the symptoms; but we have not addressed the disorder of the structure of function that is causing the symptom.

If we pay attention to our symptoms and treat the disorder that the symptoms are suggesting, we can forgo the drugs which only cause more harm and even forgo the major diseases.

The accompanying live video is here.

Definitions provided by Google.

You can have your cake and eat it too…

…just healthify it first.

I took a late nap one afternoon and woke up about 8pm. A bit late for me to have a full dinner, but I know I needed to eat something. So I decided to help myself to that hot chocolate I’d been wanting for a couple days. Here’s how it went down.

Healthified hot chocolate

14oz of hot water

2oz of a good dark chocolate bar

1/2 TBS of cocoa powder

1/2 TPS tumeric powder

1/2 TBS ground flax

1 TPS raw coconut butter

Whole milk to your taste

Add all ingredients to Vitamin/blender and let it rip. No extra foamed milk needed.

I’ve been healthifying my food for over 20 years now. Instead of denying our cravings and then bingeing on said food that we were craving, I think it is better to feed that craving in a healthier way.

While my hot chocolate was absolutely delish, it was choked full of benefits too.

  •  Brain, liver and hormonal support in the fats of the coconut butter, flax and chocolate.
  •  These also provide satiation without the bulk and excess calories.
  •  Flax also has lignans that provides estrogen support.
  •  Anti-inflammatory and antioxidant support for the tumeric, cocoa and coconut butter.
  •  The heat (temperature) supports functions such as digestion, absorption and elimination.
  •  Vitamin P – the pleasure of enjoyment. See this post – https://yesroanne.wordpress.com/2017/02/09/lets-chat-eat-you-must/.
  •  No toxic junk because I know exactly what went into my hot chocolate, unlike a lot of supermarket-shelf products.

I could drink this every night and not feel like I’m sabotaging my wellness. I did add a slice of homemade soda bread, toasted in the skillet with butter. Happy tummy!

Do you have a favorite healthified food/recipe? Share in the comments. I’d love to give it a try.

Let’s Chat: Be A Boat-rocker

Most of us humans are not boat rockers. We don’t wake up in the morning with the goal of causing commotion in our social seas. Yes, some people may very well make that their goal, but most people don’t. And before you jump to whether that is good or bad, follow me for a moment.

We are raised, and taught, by words and actions. We learn through observing those who crossed out paths – family, friends, teachers, classmates, etc. And today, we live our lives based on what we’ve learned. Yet, our present world is markedly different from 100, 50, even 10 years ago.

We live based principles passed down through generations and while they have changed some, they have not matriculated enough in too many areas of society. Now, I don’t think we have to toss everything out the window and start from scratch. But I do think we have to take a look at what we hold true and question whether it is beneficial in this current climate.

There was a Facebook video that started me down this thought path. It had a caption laws being passed to address sagging pants. I have no idea what it was about because I did not even look at it. But here is where my thoughts went:
things become social trends; we voice our opinions about it but basically dismiss it as a nuisance; fast forward 20 years; make laws to address the ‘social trend’.

Here’s the question de jour – does punishment, without addressing the belief  of the thinking, feeling person, bring change? Kids or adults? I’m guess we both came up with the answer of “no”.

Yes, punishment can change what behavior a person exhibits but it will not do much to change their thinking, feeling or belief – except now they believe they will be punished for expressing that behavior.

We must address the whole person when we want to institute change. We can punish forever and in so doing have some level of control over society, but what about the rabble-rousers? Those people show us that you cannot legislate what or how people think. And before you think rabble-rousers are a nuisance, they are usually the ones that institute the greatest, positive changes in society.

So what do we do? Well, I don’t know. I don’t have a simple solution. But we are off to a good start because you can only create a change when you see that there is a space for change. When you get to place of asking the question about change, you are in that space.

The same holds true for our health.

Our system is broken. When an 10-year old has to be treated for an eating disorder, out system is broken. When people would rather take a drug that does more harm than change a behavior that would help them feel better, our system is broken. People have given up their God given responsibility to care for their body, to others who don’t live in their body.  What is the disconnect we have that makes us think that’s okay? How can we change that?

My greatest wish is that more people get to space of asking questions. Asking questions comes with self-responsibility.

It really doesn’t matter what questions you ask. My favorite prompt word is ‘how’. Asking ‘how’ seeks solutions and implies self-responsibility because you are the only person you can put into action. ‘What’ and ‘when’ are also good prompt words. I am careful of two.

Why…can be helpful but we can also get stuck there. Coaching provides us with tools that are forward thinking and ways to create the change we want without fully knowing or understanding the why of the problem. So be mindful of the ‘why’ question.

Who…could be helpful also, but can also become a place for blame and excuses. Be careful of the ‘who’ question too.

I live my life by these ABCs – Always Be Curious. Let’s start asking. I’ll even take bad questions because at least it opens the door to the possibility of a better question. When we ask questions our possibilities become endless.

Here is the video for this Let’s Chat.*

Last week was #NEDawareness week – Feb 26 to March 4th, 2017. Let us be open to asking and answering questions. This is how we learn and connect and help better this world we all share.

*Let’s Chat happens live every Sunday on my Facebook page.

Let’s Chat: Allergies (Seasonal)

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Photo via onegoodthingbyjillee.com

Does the thought of spring make you start to itch and sneeze? Are your visions of cherry blossoms seen through watery eyes? Spring brings a natural season of change to our outdoors and as we are part of the larger ecosystem, there is change happening in our bodies too. Spring is a perfect time to take detoxifying action because our bodies are naturally sheding the layers of winter aka detoxing. This was what I talked about in my most recent Let’s Chat live. You can find an archive of all these videos here.

One organ that plays a major role in allegies is your liver. Your liver is one of your body’s major filters and it can become overwhelmed. Now this overwhelm may not show up in a standard blood test as a liver issue, but allergies are definitely a symptom that points to your liver. My personal experience shows that when I do things to support my liver’s detox process I can avoid any allergy experience. I also had someone remark to me that they experience allergies typically after they have a drink (alcoholic). Alcohol puts stress on your liver and so the allergic response was not surprising.

One of the simplest things to help not just our liver, but our bodies with the detox process is a 20-minute foot bath with epsom salts and baking soda. Epsom salts alone will help, but combined with the baking soda, has a more detoxifying effect. A simple dishpan or basin, warm water, one part baking soda and three parts Epsom salts is all you need for this.

I did mention two additional assisting processes in the let’s chat video – castor oil packs and enemas. While I did not share much of how-to, you’re welcome to send me any questions you have about those.

While helping our bodies into a state of better health, we can reduce our allergy symptoms by being mindful of what we put in our mouth. Reducing your sugar and dairy will help greatly. Both of these can be inflammation producing in our bodies. In my experience raw milk, whole milk with added enzymes or organic, free-range eggs does not cause me to have an allergy response. But venturing into the area of ice-cream is something I avoid in the thick of the pollen season.

One other thing I find very helpful is the little bottle pictured here:

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I find using a traditional netipot to be very uncomfortable for me, but this nasal wash bottle that I got at my local Walgreens works like a charm. It even came with the saline packets to add to water. For safety, I do recommend boiling any water you’re going to use for your nasal wash.

One last thing I did was purchase a bottle of local, raw honey. Honey, like all foods have amazing properties, but you can only access them if it un-heated. Getting it as local as possible to where you live is helpful because it is produced by bees that feed on the same compounds you are inhaling in the pollen. It is unclear if its this pollen content or the antibacterial, antiviral or antioxidant action of the honey that helps, but it is part of my regular spring regimen.

Do you have something natural that helps you overcome seasonal allergies?

Let’s Chat: too much or too little?

In this Let’s Chat, I touched on three conditions that popular belief says is caused by too much of something in your body. But read on to find out why popular belief could be wrong about what’s causing you the problems of acid reflux, calcium deposits and high cholesterol. If you’d rather watch the video, scroll to the end of this post for the link.

Acid reflux: too much to too little stomach acid?

Let’s start with this question? If there is too much acid in your stomach, why is there any food left to reflux? When you eat, shouldn’t you food just be incinerated? Yet, there is something left over to back up into your esophagus.

Let me propose that there is too little stomach acid or your stomach acid is too weak or there’s not enough digestive enzymes in your stomach and your food.

I have personally experienced acid reflux and digestive enzymes have helped me. And, they have done so without any drug side effects. I have a systematically compromised digestive system but it has improved to the point that if I miss enzymes at a couple meals, I’m still ok – no reflux.

You can also use apple cider vinegar, a tablespoon* in a glass of water 15 minutes before your meal.

*I’m not exact in my measurements when using foods as medicine; there is no terminal risk of overdosing.

Calcium deposits: too much or too little calcium?

Calcium needs several other minerals to be present in order for your body to be able to use it – primarily Vitamin D3 and magnesium. Some studies suggest that up to 80% of the US population is magnesium deficient. One way that is possible is the amount of sugar in the standard America diet.
Magnesium is needed for many body functions including metabolizing sugar and helping us to excrete the excess. That can surely cause low magnesium and thus not enough is available to work with the calcium.

One thing that can help calcium deposits is apple cider vinegar. According to WebMD, “Apple cider vinegar is fermented juice from crushed apples. Like apple juice, it probably contains some pectin; vitamins B1, B2, and B6; biotin; folic acid; niacin; pantothenic acid; and vitamin C. It also contains small amounts of the minerals sodium, phosphorous, potassium, calcium, iron, and magnesium.”

You’ve probably been hearing about apple cider vinegar every where these days. But with properties like those listed above, it’s no surprise. Be sure it is unpasteurized and unfiltered to get the benefits.

Cholesterol: too much or too little?

Cholesterol gets a little more detailed that just too much to too little.  The two main types at HDL (High Density Lipoprotein) and LDL (Low Density Lipoprotein).

The HDL cholesterol scavenges and removes the LDL — or “bad” — cholesterol. It reduces, reuses, and recycles LDL cholesterol by transporting it to the liver where it can be reprocessed. HDL scrubs the wall of your blood vessels, keeping them clean and healthy. Adios heart attack and stroke.

Logic suggests that since the HDL removed the LDL, is there some natural way to increase the HDL in your body? Why yes, there sure is. But first, we must reject the outdated notion that fat makes you fat. Healthy fats are vital to our bodily functions. Some vitamins are only soluble with fat. You can get your healthy fats in foods such as olive oil (extra virgin), real butter, flax seeds, avocado and fatty fish.

You are the only person that lives in your body. I hope you will tune into it, listen to the messages it sends you and do what you can to take care of it. Wellness is your choice.

Check out the accompanying video here. Did you learn something that could be helpful to you? Do you have a wellness question you’d like an answer to? Leave me your comment or question – on Facebook or here on the blog.

Let’s chat: Eat, you must.

Are you hungry?  Our bodies have a built in intelligence that if we listen to it, will help us feel our best.

Over the past month, I’ve talked about food, eating and our bodies on my Sunday morning Facebook chats. You’ll find an archive of the videos here.

Here are some touch points from the chats.

Nutrition in food form is best. Supplementation is still important because unless you are eating from your own garden, food lacks the amount of nutrition is had 50 years ago; due to factors that include picking it early to ship it and depleted nutrition in the soil.

Calories are not all equal. Consuming 2000 calories a day sounds good for measurement, but our bodies are not one dimensional. It needs energy as well as fats, proteins, vitamins, minerals and even bacteria (the healthy ones) to function optimally. Because of this, 2000 calories of soda does not come close to the nutritional value of 2000 calories of hummus. Choose smart.

Take your vitamin P. “In the absence of pleasurable satiation, one of the chemicals that increases our appetite is neuropeptide Y. It tells us to search for food. It is naturally elevated in the morning, which makes sense because that’s when the body is readying itself for action. Neuropeptide Y is also elevated whenever we are deprived of food. Its presence is particularly enhanced after dieting. Whenever we sink into a low blood sugar state – which usually means we are also in a low mood – neuropeptide Y is increased and signals us to consume carbohydrates.” Yup, that just said you should enjoy what you eat; as if you needed a reason? But many people do. They deny themselves the pleasure of eating and while there are emotional and belief reasons for that, that article says that it is not good for your health.

Your blood sugar is stabilized through eating consistently. You should do your best to eat on a schedule but listen to your body above all. If you are hungry before the scheduled time and drinking water does not satiate you, eat, even if it is not time yet.

Eating keeps you slimmer. Eating helps keep your bodies hormones and their receptors normal so that they can communicate properly – think about your stomach telling your brain it’s hungry or full.

Eating a combination of proteins, fats and carbohydrates at every meal is ideal. General belief is that fat is bad for you, but your body needs fat to make hormones, use fat soluble vitamins and even for brain function.

Have questions? What to know more about an issue you’re experiencing? Submit your questions or join me live on Sunday mornings on Facebook.

Notes To A Partisan Christian

As I sit here enjoying my favorite Sabbath spot, it’s hard for me to turn off, in my mind, all that has happened in our world in just the last week. The most heart breaking part for me is see those who profess to be Christians show no regard for people who believe differently than they do. Actually, showing no regard would be better, but I’ve seen disregard and hate; and that’s worse because it required action. It is the biggest reason I dislike being associated with most organizations (a personal pet peeve of mine). Each organization has their beliefs and everyone interprets them to fit their own agenda. And yes, this includes Christians.

Just this week, I read a Facebook conversation where folks were agreeing that Trump was going to bring the Ten Commandments back to the White House and to schools and on and on. First of all, though man has institured changes to them, God never did. And having them hung in public does nothing to change someones belief. Plus, any discussion about the ten commandments always makes we want to ask if they keep the fourth one or the ninth one or tenth one? (Exodus 20: 3-17)

There are ten, but they can be grouped into two sets – the first four are focused on our love for God and last six are focused on love for our fellow humans. Keeping the commandments are impossible without loving  your neighbor. And love can only be tangible in actions. It must be shown, not just spoken.

For the umpteenth time, the laws of this country are not the laws of the bible. The United States of America is NOT a christian country. The idea of that is so against what the bible teaches. The God I know in the bible does not mandate anyone to love and follow him. He gives us the freedom of choice, and loves us no matter what we decided to do. Yes, we will still endure the consequences of our choice, but that does not mean God loves us any less. He is the greatest example of love: to know what is best and want the best for the one you love, but to love them so freely that they are allowed to choose for themselves whether to love you or not. How would you feel if you were mandated to show love to someone you didn’t choose to love? Who is man to demand any action of love from another person? Sounds a lot like what happened in heaven before creation (Rev 12:-17).

Which brings me back to this matter of loving our neighbors. Imagine standing before God and explaining to him why you never reached out, or protected, or even hated this other person because their religious belief was different than yours; I cannot begin to imagine what would be a good explanation.

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While the scripture quote is just one verse, I suggest reading the entire chapter of James 2.

I am not a Theologian, but I am a questioner. I believe we should all be questioners. Don’t just listen to what your church or political leader says. Read. Think. Question. Can God not prove Himself? Don’t be a sheeple; be the autonomous human God created you to be.

I’ve prayed for God to show me what He want’s me to do and the answer keeps coming back as love. God doesn’t call us to be perfect. He does, over and over again, call us to love our neighbors. And it’s okay if you find it hard to do. Ask God what He wants you to do. Lean on the God you say you believe in and He will equip you with the love and courage you need. Just step out in faith. Emulate His love.

Approaching the Trump Presidency with Love

Yes, you read that correctly…with Love.

Standing over my stove preparing dinner was when it hit me. Donald Trump is actually going to be sworn in as President of the country that I live in. I must admit that I’m still in morning about that. However, as a coach, (and recovering perfectionist) it is in me to be pro-active, to lay out action steps toward what I want. Then, I recalled a quote from Rumi, “The wound is the place where the light enters.” This situation needs light. Plus, my bible says that “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” 1 John 4:8. It’s funny how love always shows up as the answer. Yes, I can love you without agreeing with you; and disagreement does not equal hate.

Let me first say, that I made the best choice with my vote and it was for neither of the popular candidates. I believe that we should always make the best choice, one that is true to our hearts and I did that with no regrets.

So what do I want?

I want more caring for and among my fellow countrymen. It is plainly seen in the days following a disaster such as Hurricane Mathew, 9/11, you name it. But when the novelty of these events have worn off, we so easily slip back to our norm of us vs them. That serves to get us nowhere fast. I want us to remember that we are all human and we need each other. No-one is destined to get of this life alive. What we can do is ease each others journey and in so doing, ease our own. I want us to love our neighbors.

I want to see people realize that the power is with the people and not the government. They are there because of us. I don’t consider myself a scholar of history, but instead of watching popular TV, I’m a PBS fan. There is so much history accessible through that channel, things you will never learn in school. Things that will open your eyes and help you elevate your life. Winston Churchill said, ““When the situation was manageable it was neglected, and now that it is thoroughly out of hand we apply too late the remedies which then might have effected a cure. There is nothing new in the story. It is as old as the sibylline books. It falls into that long, dismal catalogue of the fruitlessness of experience and the confirmed unteachability of mankind. Want of foresight, unwillingness to act when action would be simple and effective, lack of clear thinking, confusion of counsel until the emergency comes, until self-preservation strikes its jarring gong–these are the features which constitute the endless repetition of history.” May “we the people” break that cycle.

I want, for my fellow Americans to take up self-responsibility again. Those that are “fresh off the boat” be it as the turn of the 19th century of today, know what they came from and are willing to do the work to create the life they want. Our life is our responsibility. The government is not here to fix our lives. We must stop looking to them to create the society we want to live. That is our job.

Because I believe that we must live and lead by example, what am I putting myself on the line to do?

I will not speak ill our new President, so there may be times when I say nothing at all. There is enough negativity and I don’t need to add to it. Besides, I firmly believe that we get back what we put out and negativity is definitely not what I want.

I will let my actions speak louder. Actions such as paying attention to what is happing in my city, state and in Washington; calling my congresspersons – http://www.senate.gov/senators/states.htm – when there is action pending (or being snuck in) that I do not agree with.

I also believe that we get what we seek. So I am going to look forward to the best outcome from this situation. What that is, I do not know. I’m just holding hope for it.

I will have conversations with people in my circle about civics and involvement and share resources and ways to be involved. I will help them see that it is up to us; that the power is with the people.

I will continue to practice self-responsibility. I believe too much of our society has lost that and thus looks toward our government to fix society’s problems. Again, the power lies with the people. It is a fact that the economy does not operate the way it did twenty years ago and with the advancement of technology, I don’t believe its going back. So we must find a way to create our share of the future. That job belongs to each individual, NOT our government.

I will take time to care for myself. When we are not well, it is hard to be caring to others. I will do things that feed my soul and elevate my happiness. I will encourage those I know to do the same.

I will be a good neighbor. No matter your race, religion, or what ever affiliation you place on yourself, I will see you as a person, as a fellow human being. I will smile and say hello. I will ask how you’re doing and wait for an answer. I will offer my help if I see you need it. And if you ask, I will answer as best I could. I will do my best not to judge you (living in a society of labels, that takes effort). I will expect nothing from you. I will love you as you are; that includes our new President. You see, there is no finite amount of love and giving more only creates more.

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