One of my nephews has, for a long as I can remember, had a very negative reaction when he came upon a challenge while reading. It’s definitely visceral and something I pray I can help him overcome with some energy work. But, while coaching him to finish some reading last Sunday, after he had lashed out in anger, even throwing his book, I asked him to tap on his karate chop point (I’ll explain that later).
After about one minute, literally sixty seconds, he got his book and began reading – still a bit upset at first but his attitude improved and he completed the entire reading, even trying the hard words, without issue.
Lesson 1 – Why people lash out.
People lash out because of fear. They fear not being heard, not having their expectation met, not feeling loved. Maybe its happened before and so they liken this experience to a previous one and are often triggered without even realizing it. It’s part of being human and yes, we can get better at it. That will have to be another post. In the meantime, we can incorporate tools to help reduce extreme emotional reactions
Lesson 2 – EFT: A tool.
But there is a simple tool to help us when we realize we are triggered: It’s called Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT or Tapping. EFT stimulates a particular set of acupressure points, that in turn help calm the sympathetic (fear, flight, flee, freeze) response to a memory or situation. I explain more in my ‘about video’. You’ll find some history of EFT here.
I love this tool because it is simple, needs no special equipment and can be used by kids and adults to address any challenging emotion we are facing. I’ve personally used EFT to help with depressed moods or being angry and I’ve used it with my clients.
I find this to be such a valuable tool that I’ve added a reference on my website’s resource page. You will find images of the tapping points, an explanation video and a demo video referencing anxiety. I recommend familiarizing yourself with the tapping points so you’ll know them when you need them, but whenever you find yourself needing a quick reference, it will be here for you.
Know someone with anxiety? This tool would be great to share with them.
Do you have a tool to help you through life’s emotional bumps? I love tools so please share in the comments below.