Yes, you read that correctly…with Love.
Standing over my stove preparing dinner was when it hit me. Donald Trump is actually going to be sworn in as President of the country that I live in. I must admit that I’m still in morning about that. However, as a coach, (and recovering perfectionist) it is in me to be pro-active, to lay out action steps toward what I want. Then, I recalled a quote from Rumi, “The wound is the place where the light enters.” This situation needs light. Plus, my bible says that “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” 1 John 4:8. It’s funny how love always shows up as the answer. Yes, I can love you without agreeing with you; and disagreement does not equal hate.
Let me first say, that I made the best choice with my vote and it was for neither of the popular candidates. I believe that we should always make the best choice, one that is true to our hearts and I did that with no regrets.
So what do I want?
I want more caring for and among my fellow countrymen. It is plainly seen in the days following a disaster such as Hurricane Mathew, 9/11, you name it. But when the novelty of these events have worn off, we so easily slip back to our norm of us vs them. That serves to get us nowhere fast. I want us to remember that we are all human and we need each other. No-one is destined to get of this life alive. What we can do is ease each others journey and in so doing, ease our own. I want us to love our neighbors.
I want to see people realize that the power is with the people and not the government. They are there because of us. I don’t consider myself a scholar of history, but instead of watching popular TV, I’m a PBS fan. There is so much history accessible through that channel, things you will never learn in school. Things that will open your eyes and help you elevate your life. Winston Churchill said, ““When the situation was manageable it was neglected, and now that it is thoroughly out of hand we apply too late the remedies which then might have effected a cure. There is nothing new in the story. It is as old as the sibylline books. It falls into that long, dismal catalogue of the fruitlessness of experience and the confirmed unteachability of mankind. Want of foresight, unwillingness to act when action would be simple and effective, lack of clear thinking, confusion of counsel until the emergency comes, until self-preservation strikes its jarring gong–these are the features which constitute the endless repetition of history.” May “we the people” break that cycle.
I want, for my fellow Americans to take up self-responsibility again. Those that are “fresh off the boat” be it as the turn of the 19th century of today, know what they came from and are willing to do the work to create the life they want. Our life is our responsibility. The government is not here to fix our lives. We must stop looking to them to create the society we want to live. That is our job.
Because I believe that we must live and lead by example, what am I putting myself on the line to do?
I will not speak ill our new President, so there may be times when I say nothing at all. There is enough negativity and I don’t need to add to it. Besides, I firmly believe that we get back what we put out and negativity is definitely not what I want.
I will let my actions speak louder. Actions such as paying attention to what is happing in my city, state and in Washington; calling my congresspersons – http://www.senate.gov/senators/states.htm – when there is action pending (or being snuck in) that I do not agree with.
I also believe that we get what we seek. So I am going to look forward to the best outcome from this situation. What that is, I do not know. I’m just holding hope for it.
I will have conversations with people in my circle about civics and involvement and share resources and ways to be involved. I will help them see that it is up to us; that the power is with the people.
I will continue to practice self-responsibility. I believe too much of our society has lost that and thus looks toward our government to fix society’s problems. Again, the power lies with the people. It is a fact that the economy does not operate the way it did twenty years ago and with the advancement of technology, I don’t believe its going back. So we must find a way to create our share of the future. That job belongs to each individual, NOT our government.
I will take time to care for myself. When we are not well, it is hard to be caring to others. I will do things that feed my soul and elevate my happiness. I will encourage those I know to do the same.
I will be a good neighbor. No matter your race, religion, or what ever affiliation you place on yourself, I will see you as a person, as a fellow human being. I will smile and say hello. I will ask how you’re doing and wait for an answer. I will offer my help if I see you need it. And if you ask, I will answer as best I could. I will do my best not to judge you (living in a society of labels, that takes effort). I will expect nothing from you. I will love you as you are; that includes our new President. You see, there is no finite amount of love and giving more only creates more.